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| Breaking the chain |
Many men will hate this. Many women will be offended. Good. The truth must be told—or too many women will stay single, used, and waiting.
Dear young woman,
Sit down. Ask yourself the real questions:
What is love to me?
Why hasn’t he proposed after four years?
Why does he tense up when I mention marriage?
What’s the point of a nine-year relationship with no ring, no plan, no future?
Let me break it down:
Men are greedy when it comes to women. They’re happiest when they get everything—sex, companionship, loyalty—without effort or commitment. You think you’re giving it “for love”? No.
A man isn’t truly yours until you’re married—and even then, it takes God’s grace to keep him.
This post is for every woman dating 2+ years with no progress. Let’s begin.
1. Know what YOU want—before you say yes.
Ask yourself:
What do I gain from this relationship?
What’s my goal: marriage or a fling?
How long am I willing to wait?
Your answers decide your boundaries. Choose wisely.
2. If you’ve been dating for years hoping he’ll “marry you later”—I’m sorry.
Here’s the truth:
Men are predators by design. They stick to the easy path—zero stress, full access. A smart woman who asks questions? He’ll hesitate.
If he wanted to marry you, he wouldn’t wait years. He’d lock it down in months.
3. A man who dates you for years without marriage or kids? He’s not confused—he’s using you.
Sisters, listen:
He likely has multiple women he’s “assessing.”
If he’s ready to settle, he won’t court you for years. He’ll propose fast.
The ones who play? They give excuses:
“I’m not financially ready…”
Yet he’s been “not ready” for five years while enjoying your body, your time, your heart.
Final wake-up call:
Stop cuddling excuses.
Stop giving wife benefits to a boyfriend.
If he wanted to, he would.
You are not a placeholder.
Demand clarity. Set deadlines. Walk if he won’t commit.
Love yourself enough to leave the waiting room.
Let the offended be offended. The wise will be free.
As a woman who’s dated for years, have you ever noticed this?
Your man gets jittery the second your friends or family ask:
“You’ve been together forever—when’s the wedding?”
He knows they’re right. He has zero defense.
That’s why, the moment they leave, he snaps:
“I hate how they talk about us!”
Ladies, wake up.
You’re sacrificing everything—time, youth, dreams—while gaining nothing.
Don’t be another victim of “used and dumped.”
The 10-Year Nightmare (Real Story)
I met a woman who dated a man for 10 solid years.
One random day, he said:
“I can’t do this anymore. Let’s go our separate ways.”
She fainted from the shock.
She was in her late 30s.
That same month?
He married a younger woman.
Now she weeps, curses him, and regrets every wasted year.
Single. No kids. No closure.
She thought it was love.
It was exploitation.
Ask Yourself—HONESTLY:
Why date 2+ years with no ring?
What’s the point if there’s no future?
Are you okay being his bed-warmer and ego boost?
Don’t you have dreams? Kids? A family?
Don’t you deserve a man who builds a home WITH you?
Final Truth:
You’re not “waiting for the right time.”
You’re settling for crumbs.
Love doesn’t blind you—it EMPTIES you.
You’re not a side chick with a title.
You’re a queen with needs, goals, and a timeline.
Wise up, sister.
Stop warming his bed.
Start guarding your future.
If he wanted to marry you, he would’ve by now.
Demand the ring—or walk.
Your 30s aren’t a waiting room.
They’re your throne room.
BREAK THAT CHAIN NOW!
Love is a tricky business.
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